Why do women suffer
The white-collar workplace looks like paradise to many people-walking in various high-end parties, entering and exiting extraordinary top office buildings . but in seemingly calm and noble working environment, it is often undercurrent.
Out of contention, “office politics” is intensifying, and women are even more serious-being spied on by others, spreading groundless gossip; deliberately provoking due to trivial matters, and even causing uproar; minutes may be possibleFalling into her carefully arranged traps . In such a fiercely competitive society, if the workplace is like a battlefield, it is not false, but it is not necessary to fight against each other. The ancients paid attention to retreating without costing one soldier and one soldier.Today’s urban beauties should also learn to take advantage of Rou Kegang. In the face of provocation, you can accurately retreat and retreat; of course, if you can find some common goals from your opponents, cultivate them into “utilitarian partners”, or evenEnemies are friends, that’s no better.
The battle for life and death of the beauty in the workplace. The saliva battle is to cope with the appearance and appearance of other people. As long as other female colleagues leave the body and let them feel that there is no danger, they can save themselves and work with peace of mind; but I like it for nothingIt is not so easy for a woman who is playing tricks to deal with it.
Such women are born with gossip, and may be jealous, and they do n’t have much ability, and they ca n’t see others surpassing themselves. So they spread all kinds of rumors among colleagues, even if they ca n’t really defeat their opponents.A moment of joy.
The future can attract people’s attention and glimpse the potential. It is this kind of person’s expertise that comes out of nothing. If you have a momentary confrontation with her, it will hit her.
This kind of person is not afraid of scolding, but is ignored.
So, once this kind of person appears in the office, stay away from her. It’s like a dog is going to bite you. You can’t bite it back. The best way is to avoid it first and then find a chance to fight back.
As long as the saliva remarks about her in the office are no longer intriguing, she won’t be boring.
Controversy over appearances Remember that the two in “Meteor Garden” had to compete with each other when they met. Do you put Miss Qianjin in your clothes? Except for the brand-names around the body, even the nose that has been surgically treated will become their capital of display.
You can think of this just as a joke, but women’s comparison of beauty has never stopped. Even in the workplace competition that outsiders think work ability is better than everything, beauty is also a woman’s killer, especially having aTime for male boss.
It’s not that women are born greedy and vanity, but there are always some people who want to get it for nothing, at least they have to take shortcuts, and the “beauty plan” is almost the same as the boss, it is naturally the most difficult and quite flattering thing-who makes heavenThe secret weapon that bestows beauty on women?
As a result, the office embarked on a battle like a harem.
Once they are “upper”, these women will inevitably draw too many irrelevant colleagues to enter their own population base in turn, but as ordinary employees, they must also be careful, because in such a battle of favor, chickens and dogs will rise to heaven, and out of favor, they will fall into pond fish.After the grass-roots relationship is established, the beauty is the key issue. They will do everything possible to approach the boss, display beauty, and improve slightly. They will inevitably strike the iron while they are hot, and will not attack the opponent with the remaining force, and will inevitably put the opponent to death.
For such a war, it is bound to be counted until the death net is broken and one side is completely defeated. This is the case of the ancients, and it is the same now.
Women of competence are no longer embroidered pillows. There are many women who want to make some achievements. Therefore, it is not uncommon to have open and close fights in the workplace to show strength.
These women have no deep hatred, but it is not difficult to resolve them because of conflicts of interest due to proof of strength or promotion in the workplace.
First of all, they all have super strong working ability. Once they remain hostile, they will lose both. If they can cooperate without any breakup, they will be indestructible in this work.
Moreover, the goals of such people are often similar. They all want to prove their worth through living money, promotion, etc., and lead a better life.
Recognizing these common starting points, there is no need for everyone to fight for a dead net. Through cooperation, they can form a “utilitarian partner”. Even if they cannot become close friends, they can advance each other in their work, at least they can be considered smart.
Join forces to find a utilitarian partner. When it comes to “utilitarian”, too many people will scoff at it, thinking that those careless actions are not done by gentlemen. In fact, utilitarianism is not equal to power. Those stingy, clear division of booksThe behavior of Chu is so good that it can only hurt the trust between partners.
The utilitarianism mentioned here is that both parties have a common goal of struggle, and it is best that they can complement each other in terms of professional skills and advance together with mutual trust.
Once such a cooperative alliance is formed, each other’s interests are related to their own interests, and they will work hard to eliminate suspicion and jointly handle things properly.
However, the cooperation relationship with men is different. Women are more affected by emotional factors. The cooperation between many women has been enthusiastic at the beginning, just like their biological sisters, but their faces often turn overnight.
Therefore, before reaching a consensus on the problem, you must control your emotions and control your mouth, especially not to personal attack, otherwise the hard-working cooperative relationship may collapse instantly.
After all, to let partners consider your interests, you must also consider the interests of the other party. Only through rational cooperation can the relationship be best maintained.
Therefore, when choosing a partner, it is best to choose a person who can complement you with a specialty and division of labor. In this way, when different problems arise, you can choose who is the best in accordance with their respective strengths.
For a successful cooperative relationship, try not to involve personal relationships and personal feelings, because many of the content that must be determined through words may be verbal because of the temporary use of morality.
The verbal agreement is a time bomb in the cooperation between the two parties. Once someone is tempted by the interests, this agreement does not have the least restrictive function. Therefore, learn to protect the cooperative relationship with words so that the interests of both parties will be firstA guarantee.
Of course, it is not to say that in the future, the interests must be preserved. The partners must be scrutinized, without feelings, and put aside their work, care for each other in life, and even support each other when they are in distress. This relationship can be united by showing personal charmBeing closer is naturally the icing on the cake.
In any case, in the process of maintaining a utilitarian partnership, rational factors such as integrity and professionalism have always been a magic weapon for success.
The four strokes teach you to turn your enemies into friends. So-called “no permanent enemy, but constant friends.” In a highly competitive society, no one is willing to easily establish an enemy.
Everyone knows the principle of “multiple enemies, multiple walls, multiple friends, multiple roads”, and you only need to spend a little bit of time thinking about it, and you can turn it into jade.
Determine who decides.
A single CASE must have a person who has the final decision, and is affected by emotions, the surrounding environment and other factors. The result of competing for the “principal” will inevitably lead to the break-up of the partnership.
Therefore, it doesn’t matter who accompanies them, it is better to determine who makes the conclusion through professional division of labor.
In this way, no one is a permanent supervisor. There is always a key point for different problems, either customer relationships or plan planning. At this time, the best solution is to discuss heroes by strength.
2.Learn to protect partners.
There are advantages and disadvantages to public partners, which can enhance their momentum, but at the same time, setting up a large crowd may also cause many potential troubles.
So smart people have to learn to hide partners.
Clear common goals.
Partners come together because of common goals, but when dealing with problems, they often feel tired, tired, and even suspicious because they are dragged on too long. It is doubtful whether the other party’s trouble has affected the progress. At this time, you willWe must continue to be each other’s common goal, and let the other party strengthen the confidence of cooperation.
Invest in feelings and considerate partners.
The above are all from the perspective of rationality, but after all, people are emotional animals. They talk about morality in communication and know how to save their partners when they are in distress. The relationship between these emotional investors is more stable and lasting.